We May Not Have It All Together, But Together We Have It ALL.

I have an announcement to make:
I think I’m finally getting a hang on this whole *Mommy Thing*. Less than a year ago, I used to gawk look at seasoned mommas and think, “How does she do it?!” Her hair is freshly washed & smells like cucumber water, she’s rocking a cute outfit, and tampons aren’t falling out of her diaper bag. Staring at what I assumed was *perfection* I felt like I was drowning in the pool of motherhood, barely able to come up for air. 

Months ago I was lucky if I got out of the house before 11. 
& Me Time? pshhh! What’s that?!
A mommy friend of mine was over a while back when she accused me of being told me I was one of Those Moms: TheMomWhoHasItAllTogether.
My first thought was, Who me? Are you talking about me? Because I don’t see anyone who has it all together here.
My second thought was, Ohhhhh… now I get it! All those other moms–you know, the ones I thought had it all together? They must be just like me! 
They must stuff unsorted laundry behind closed doors. justlikeme. & they must sani-wipe like their life depends on it five minutes before company comes over. justlikeme. & they must trade a dish of potpourri for a pile of Boogie Wipes. justlikeme.
Yes. Yes, they must. 
We moms can do ANYTHING! But we can’t do EVERYTHING!
When my mother comes over, stares at the disaster zone clutter, and says to me, “Why don’t you put this away as soon as you walk in the door?” or, “This {insert.item.here} has been sitting here for weeks, Katie…” I simply reply back, “A messy house is a happy house… it means we’re busy making memories!”
{fortunately, my mom knows better now not to say anything… ;p }
But I digress.
The thought of people thinking I HaveItAllTogether makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside {thanks, brittany. ILY.}. It’s probably one of the best compliments a newish mommy can get. 
However, I wouldn’t HaveItAllTogether if it weren’t for making some adjustments in my life:
The utmost important tweak {in my opinion} I’ve made was waking up earlier. 5:45am earlier. This was a big jump for me because my sweet little one sleeps in until 8:30/9! {please don’t hate us…} I used to wake up when she woke up. You’d thinking sleeping in until mid-morning would be quite pleasant, but I found myself frantically scrambling to GetItAllTogether! It was no bueno, my friends…

Now, I have from 5:45 until 8:30ish to ease into my day on my own time. It usually starts off with a cup of tea, a quick stretch, check/respond to emails, pay bills, & do all the odds ‘n ends I’m too tired to do in the evening. I almost always have time to write, eat, & beautify myself. Then, when Emmy wakes up, she has my undivided attention.  & I’m not running back and forth between changing her diaper and scarfing oatmeal down my throat.

I was sooo not a Morning Person, my whole life, but now I am. My mind is clear and fresh, and I plan on keeping it that way!
{a little tip on turning myself in to a Morning Person is placing my iPhone alarm out of arm’s reach. aka… getting my tush out of bed!}

& how do I try to keep my house clean? By worshiping the queen of the Happy House. I’d be lying if I said I didn’t fall off the band wagon every now and again, but her routine and process has helped this momma out, y’all!

Also, to say I’m O.B.S.E.S.S.E.D. with Jen at IHeart Organizing, would be an understatement. She rocks my socks off! I highly recommend you check out all her hard work. It has changed my life for the better. Super corny, I know–but it’s true 🙂

Being a mom is always going to be a work-in-progress. Things don’t necessarily get easier… you just find ways to manage better. & over time, you might just *fool* some people along the way that you HaveItAllTogether. 

Now, excuse me as I’m off to scrape the snot off the diaper bag, and eat something other than Veggie Straws and Starbucks coffee.


Kids or no kids, what do you do in order to HaveItAllTogether?


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3 Replies to “We May Not Have It All Together, But Together We Have It ALL.”

  1. Guilty! I too have thrown laundry out of sight into any random place we wouldn't be when company comes over.

    My tip: I make sure the diaper bag is packed the night before playgroup, story hour, church or where ever we're headed. It helps A LOT! Fill cups and pop them into the fridge. Also, the hubs feeds the kids in the am so I can have a few moments to myself before the day gets crazy busy!

  2. I'll be honest, I'd rather be stuck in the "not-having-it-all-together" than get up that early! 😉


    But in all honesty, my child still doesn't sleep through the night [hello tired] AND I have to start back to work in August; I'll be getting up early soon enough so I enjoy the 9 AM waking up with baby in my bed. 🙂

  3. Haha, if you could see the pile of clean laundry that needs to be put away in my bedroom! Every night I come home from work, throw the pile on my bed (with intent to fold and put away the whole pile), and every night I throw the pile back INTO the laundry basket b/c I just didn't have the time/energy to take care of it. haha I think after a week I finally folded it all. So, you're definitely not alone, mama! 🙂

    And, I wish I could get up earlier to actually have some 'me' time. Unfortunately, I have to be at work at 6am, so I'm already up at 5:15 every day. There's NO way I'm waking up at 4am every day…I just can't do it! 😉 But, I think it's an awesome idea (and I've seen a lot of other mommies talking about doing the same thing in order to fit in time for themselves.)

    It sounds like you're doing an awesome job, mama! I'm so happy for you. 🙂

    PS – My baby girls sleeps in until 8:30-9:30, too! I need to start taking advantage of that on the weekends and get my 'me' time in then. We'll see!

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