It’s only been two months, but it seems like Adelaide has always been in our family. People have asked me how I could love someone as much as Emmalyn. My answer to that is this: when you have another child, your heart just instinctively knows how to expand to make room for more love. It’s like lighting candles… the flame doesn’t burn out when you light one candle to the next, but rather ignites more flames. My heart ignites more love.
It may sound cheesy, but I am seriously obsessed with Adelaide! I just want to hug, hold, and kiss her All!Day!Long! The first three weeks were difficult because I felt like a never-ending milking-cow, but after she grew out of her cluster-feedings, I felt a weight lifted off my shoulders. I also felt an even bigger weight lifted off when I stopped nursing from the left side (because it was so painful!!) and just continued on the right only. Holy goodness, that was the best decision I made. I cannot tell you how great it made breast-feeding for me. I am so so s-o-o-o glad I didn’t give up! And really, THANK YOU to everyone who supported and encouraged me–whether by person, phone, or text! I couldn’t have pushed through it without all of y’all! Thank you a hundred times over!
Adelaide is such a wonderful baby. She basically only cries when she’s tired, hungry, or needs to be changed. She’s also a major cuddle-bug! Her favorite spot to be is laying on mama’s chest. (It’s my favorite place for her to be, too!) Just this past week she’s really started to smile when you talk to her. And she even had a conversation with her big sister 😉 At bed time the other night, we were reading books in Emmalyn’s bed when she started cooing. Emmalyn would imitate her back, then Adelaide would coo again. It went back and forth several times, and both Emmalyn and I got a huge kick out of it. Adorable!
Speaking of Big Sister, Emmalyn is adjusting quite well to her new role, although I must admit, she can drive me a little insane sometimes. Like me, she’s also obsessed with her little sister and won’t stop touching her. The problem is she wants to touch her while she’s sleeping. And it’s not just a little peck on the feet or a soft touch, it’s a full-on Hugging & Kissing Frenzy! I’ve tried so hard to give her softer alternatives to showing Adelaide affection, but alas, she won’t listen. (Big surprise there… she’s three!)
The experience of having a second child is so much different than the first. I’m not nervous about anything (except what Emmalyn is up to if I have to run to the bathroom real quick!). With the first, I remember being nervous about going to Target, changing blow-out diapers, feeding at the right time, giving baths, and even just putting her head through a onesie. But the second time around, I feel like a pro. Also, Adelaide has no choice but to just go! go! go! With Emmalyn I was so nervous about public germs. However, once you’ve witnessed your child licking the metal poles in line at Sea World (can I get a barf bag?!), you learn to let loose a little. Hand sanitizer is still my best friend, and I try to keep Adelaide covered in her car seat when we’re out, but I’d go stir crazy (and Emmalyn would, too!) if we didn’t venture out practically every day. Adelaide has been to museums, the library, shopping, parks, church, and friend’s houses multiple times.
She is still sleeping in her “Rock-n-play” sleeper next to our bed, and I don’t plan on moving her any time soon. I love having her sleep next to me. I love hearing her breaths, snores, and baby pterodactyl-like noises. I love that in the middle of the night I can just reach over to nurse her. Adelaide is still wearing newborn clothes and diapers. She doesn’t mind “tummy-time” and holds her head up remarkably well. At night, she even scoots herself almost all the way over onto her side. She loves listening to Emmalyn sing, dance, and play the guitar. We’ve nicknamed her “Bright Eyes” for the way she watches everyone around her. Next to her older sister’s, you can definitely see that her eyes are blue. I just wonder if they’re going to stay that way?
My two girls have taught me the importance of living in the moment and slowing down. With Emmalyn, I tried so hard to do things “by the books”. I moved her into her own room at three months, and I didn’t want her to get used to being rocked to sleep, among other things. But they’re only this little once in their lives. I can’t believe Emmalyn will be four in a few months, and I cringe when I think about Adelaide growing as fast as she already is. I wanted to rush the infant stage with Emmalyn, and now I never want Adelaide to grow out of her newborn clothes! It’s amazing how your perspective changes.
I’m absolutely loving being a mommy to my two beautiful girls. It truly is the great thing I’ve ever done! It’s cliche, I know, but I can’t remember life before Adelaide. By the Grace of God, she was meant to be in our family.
And as Emmalyn would say, “Can we keep her?”
Yes. We can keep her. She’s ours forever…